Mums too scared to talk to friends about sex and weak bladders, study finds

Sex, weak bladders and emotions are among the list of conversation topics mums hate having with friends, a study has found.

The survey of 1,500 mothers revealed that a quarter simply don't want to burden others with their woes.

While more than a third worry about boring their friends with discussions about things like birth stories (21%) and the pressure to be a good mum (19%).

In fact, 47% are choosing not to share anything about the emotional side of motherhood including hiding how they are feeling emotional, overlooked and needing more support.

One in six even feel uncomfortable talking about how they may need more support, or how overwhelmed they sometimes feel.

Leah Dyckes, from Maltesers which commissioned the survey, said: "Alongside the joys of motherhood are also the harder parts, and this has only been highlighted over the last 12 months.

"The survey findings reveal how so many mums aren’t comfortable broaching those uncomfortable conversations."

The study found that mums would rather embark on safer conversations about holidays (29%) or what they watched on telly last night (24%).

Other topics considered more appropriate include general gossip about people they know (23%), or what plans have been made for the weekend (21%).

But a third of mothers wish they found it easier to share more in conversations.

Confectionary brand Maltesers has partnered with mental health campaigner and mother, Ashley James, as it launches a new social media campaign, #TheMassiveOvershare, to shine a light on maternal mental health.

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Ashley said: "As a new mum myself, I know the complexities and spectrum of emotions being a parent brings. There’s a lot of laughter and tears, but not just from your baby.

"Be it our own experiences or the experiences of our friends, siblings or partners we know that mum’s mental health struggles are rarely discussed, and often considered taboo.

"But the reality is being a mum is tough and it certainly isn’t helped by the glossy, edited photos we scroll through every day.

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"It’s unfortunate that these survey findings aren’t revealing anything we didn’t already suspect, but rather they are shining a light on an issue that has too long gone overlooked – mums, it’s time to overshare!"

It also emerged 14% are happy to talk in general about how busy life is.

However, although 41% tend to talk about different subjects with their mum and non-mum friends, a third talk to both friendship groups equally.

It also emerged 36% will talk about different things to their partners, than they will with their friends.

When these women do feel able to share more information than usual in a conversation, one fifth feel relieved, while 17% feel reassured, according to the research carried out via OnePoll.

But 37% try not to overshare as they don’t want to talk about themselves too much and 11 per cent simply find it too difficult to open up.

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